How much adversity are you dealing with right now? Are you on a losing streak that has got you down? If not now, chances are that you have experienced one before, and if you are like most of us, it had a very negative effect on your attitude. Being the emotional creatures that we are, it’s quite natural to feel frustrated, disappointed, even bitter and angry.
I am very impressed with the attitude of a pro football player whose team has now lost 24 straight games…that’s one-and-a-half full football seasons since his last taste of victory. Antonio Smith is playing for the Oakland Raiders who have lost all 10 of their games this season. Last year, Antonio played for the Houston Texans who lost their last 14 games. As demanding a sport as football is, can you imagine how sour 24 consecutive defeats must taste? Here is what Antonio had to say about it:
“I see no cause in burning up a ship, and any time you come at anything with a negative outlook, that’s exactly what you’re doing. You’re killing yourself from the inside out.”
He’s right! It’s natural to feel down, allow yourself to feel it – give the negative feelings their moment. Then ask yourself – what can I learn from this? Next, tell yourself that it’s time to move on. Use the learning to make positive adjustments and use the experience to fuel your drive for your next “win”. Don’t continue to give your time/energy to a negative attitude. If a turnaround is what you want, give your time/energy to a better cause — FAITH and HOPE, and then follow up with whatever ACTIONS you believe will lead to better results. Your next win is just around the corner…and the more you focus on that, the closer it gets.
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Do you remember my Inspiring Thought from yesterday? It was a football related quote from Vince Lombardi – “The man who wins, is the man who thinks he can.”
If you watched the Giants-Royals World Series game last night, you too saw the play of the San Francisco Giants epitomized this quote, and my thoughts that went with the quote. Before going on, I should admit that I am a SF Giants fan all the way, so my apologies to any KC Royals fans.
These are the 6 traits that I noticed in the S.F. Giants players during last night’s game:
- DESIRE & CONFIDENCE – or better known as the “willing and able” combination that is foundational to success.
- FAITH – each player looked like they believed in themselves, and believed in their teammates (we all have teammates – fellow employees, management, customers, suppliers, family, friends).
- INTENSE FOCUS – laser like concentration on everything within your control…their mindset and their actions.
- PATIENCE & PERSISTENCE – the players never looked panicked as they fell behind 4-1 and knowing that they had not yet been successful in the later innings against the Royals “Big 3” bull-pen pitchers.
- MOMENTUM – this word is often referred to in sports. After the Giants got their 2nd run, it quickly led to their 3rd, 4th, 5th…and on to their 11th. Their performance kept improving to the point that they built in insurmountable lead and broke the Royals confidence.
- ATTITUDE – winning breeds winning because an attitude is created that is based on real experiences of success. This one word sums up all of the others before it.
I have to confess that I was starting to panic for the Giants until my cousin Jack (a huge Giants fan) calmed me by saying “Hey, it’s only the 3rd inning, there’s a lot of time left. The Giants just have to stay in the game by chipping away at the lead, no problem.” The SF Giants have a well-deserved reputation for coming from behind and winning, and they did just that and WON (by a lot).
I love sports and it’s fun to see a team showcase the traits of success and win. There are big lessons to learn from the world of sports, like the ones that I outlined above, and those lessons are easily applied to success in all other endeavors – work, relationships, health, community, and spirituality.
I’m getting ready for Game 5 of the World Series with one thought…GO GIANTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tom Pearson – Tom@OwnMyGreatness.com
There is a growth opportunity in every challenge we face, if we choose to look for it. Some lessons are obvious and others require longer periods of contemplation. Ask, why did this situation come to me? Did I in some way attract this situation and, if so, for what positive purpose? What can I learn from this situation? Trust me, I’m asking myself these questions right now about the 6 years that my wife and I spent parenting and giving ourselves completely to two foster care kids, only to realize that we reached our capacity to give before their issues were even close to being resolved. I never imagined that in giving 110% of our love, care, and comfort, that these kids would not out-grow their behavioral issues. I was taught a great lesson in human development and behavior alright, and I’m still seeking to understand the role that we were meant to play in these kids’ lives. I’ve never been through anything so difficult, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. I do not doubt that answers to questions we have about our role in the lives of these children will come in time. I do know that this situation tested our resolve every day for 6 years, and we gave everything we had to give. The toughest situations do harden our mettle, and teach us that we have more courage and capacity than we likely give ourselves credit for. So when you are faced with a stressful challenge, know that there is a gift in it for you…and it will reveal itself if you look for it.
“When you realize that every stressful moment you experience is a gift that points you to your own freedom, life becomes very kind.” By Byron Katie
Tom Pearson – www.OwnMyGreatness.com
Your mind is always working, all day and all night, 24/7. Here’s the thing – your mind is either working for you or against you all the time, and you get to choose. Depending on your state of mind – faith or fear, desire or doubt – your mind will ensure that you get exactly what you expect and believe you are worthy of receiving. If you choose to believe, really believe, that you should receive what you want…your mind goes to work for you and helps you find the ways to get it. Your mind has an amazing and predictable capacity to give you the ideas, solutions, and the resources needed to solve your challenges and reach your goals. The mind is s your Secret Genie that is saying to you “your wish is my command”. So tell your Secret Genie what you want, why you want it, that you are deserving, and then do what is needed with total faith in a positive outcome…and your results will improve dramatically.
The challenge in this fairly simple approach lies in our Inner Beliefs – self doubt, fear, worry, insecurity, distrust – and a variety of defeating personal characteristics like Indecision, Procrastination, Laziness, Disorganization, and Apathy. You can learn to change any of these that you have, and you must change these if you want to improve your results. I can provide a variety of resources to help you improve your mental and emotional approach. So reach out for a no-obligation helping hand, as I’m glad to share what helped me discover how to command my Secret Genie.
Getting what we want in our lives requires a minimum of these things:
- Faith In Oneself
- Burning/Passionate Desire
- Persistent/Continuous Action.
These are the basics and, yes, there are other factors and personality attributes that influence our results. To get the Universal Laws of Cause and Effect, Vibration/Attraction, and others working with us…we need to use our Imagination to build and hold in the screen of our mind the image of what we want and who we want to become. We use our Will Power to focus on and hold this this image in our mind every day, and through Repetition, we convince our mind that this is our new reality…we create a new, empowering, positive Paradigm (belief system).
“You can attract only that which you mentally become and feel yourself to be in reality.”
~ Ernest Holmes ~
“Take bold, consistent action in the face of uncertainty.”
~ Jonathan Fields ~
I recommend you read this blog post by Darren Hardy who says that to win in the game of life you will need to “be the ball” and learn The Bounce. What is The Bounce? To fall rapidly, hit bottom suddenly with impact and rebound decisively. He makes an important distinction between falling and failing, the difference being how you respond to disappointments. Read about the four distinct phases of The Bounce – The Fall, The Impact, The Restoration, and The Elevation. http://darrenhardy.success.com/2011/08/mastering-the-bounce/
The 2 primary mental building blocks for success are CONFIDENCE and DESIRE. When you have these, and then you add PERSISTENT ACTION…look out world, because you have mentally conditioned yourself to OVERCOME over every obstacle and to ACHIEVE every goal. Below are two excellent ‘thoughts’ related to CONFIDENCE.
“To be a top performer you have to be passionately committed to what you’re doing and insanely confident about your ability to pull it off.”
~ John Eliot ~
“Confidence is a choice, not a symptom. You succeed because you’ve chosen to be confident.”
~ Seth Godin ~