This is true for all of us. The pain related to Growth and Change is temporary, but the pain related to Staying Stuck persists until we become un-stuck. Which is worse? As a Personal Success Coach, my job is helping people get un-stuck and move confidently towards what they really want. What is it that you really want? I invite you to share it with me.
Hey, it’s still football season – my favorite sports time of the year. So why not another motivating quote from the gridiron:
Vince Lombardi – “ http://perpetualstudent.net/ethics-big-data/ Confidence is contagious, so is lack of confidence.”
We all know how true this is. If we are paying attention, we see this concept play out every day in our lives…at work, at home, and at play. When you have confidence in what you are doing, your performance will most often meet or exceed your expectations…and you’ll perform with little to no stress. However, order cheap Seroquel online when you don’t have confidence you will more often perform below your expectations and experience the discomfort of doubt and worry.
We all want to operate with more proventil cost confidence, though it can be hard to come by in 3 these situations:
- You have performed poorly in the past
- You have never done before
- Same task but much larger scale than anything you’ve done in the past
I immediately think of 5 work examples for the above situations:
- Starting a new business
- Expanding an existing business
- Starting a new job
- Taking a promotion
- Changing careers
Many other examples come to mind in our home/play life – dating, marriage, parenting, home improvement projects, sports, hobbies, games, parties, etc.
We typically gain confidence with something through having performed it successfully in the past. But why wait for success to show up. You can gain confidence whenever you need it…even before your first attempt at something.
Confidence, like Success, is a MINDSET, an ATTITUDE, which you can choose to shift to the positive. Those who don’t consciously choose their mindset are left to whatever their “default” mindset is in the situations described above…which for most people is fear, doubt, worry – lack of confidence.
Using confidence-building auto-suggestion techniques and support from a coach/mentor/peer, you can create the “can do, will do” mindset needed to perform at your best. And, isn’t that what we all really want…to do our best?
If you would like advice on how to gain confidence and bring out your best, let’s talk.
Tom Pearson – Personal Success Coach
I know the Series has been over for 10 days now, but I have to call-out a terrifying moment from the 7th and final game – a moment that I’d bet almost everyone has experienced in one way or another.
The “collapse” that I’m referring to was not that of any player, coach, or fan. It was the collapse by Rick Wilde, the Chevrolet executive that muffed his MVP Award presentation speech. When he took the mic, he was sweating and panting…which was a sign of his nervousness and what was to come. He tripped himself up in his first sentence, and continued from there to muff one sentence after another, even the ones that were written on the cue cards he had in his hand (when was the last time you saw a presenter of such an award use cue cards). It was painful to watch Rick, I felt for him as he collapsed under the weight of this big moment for him and Chevrolet.
In speaking with friends in the days after, we all speculated on what caused Rick to be so out of sorts. Did he not have time to prepare, hadn’t he given a million presentations throughout his career? Who knows, though I do know that he would not have been hand-picked to represent Chevrolet and their millions of dollars invested in the World Series if he was not a very capable public speaker. So what happened?
I think Rick perceived the moment to be bigger than himself…than his ability. He surely felt the pressure to deliver – which he had no doubt felt many times before, though I doubt he had ever delivered on a stage with tens of millions in the audience. In that way, this was a new experience and magnificent opportunity, and I believe Rick wanted very badly to do well. Rick did not handle pressure. Hasn’t this happened to you too?
We psych ourselves out, not up…and what we fear may happen, does happen. In pressure moments with lots at stake, we all have self-doubts. We are human and imperfect. And if we allow those doubts to dominate our mind, we’re very likely to experience the result we fear. So what to do?
Make a decision to change your thoughts – “Change The Channel”, as I call it, when the thoughts that are playing inside your head don’t support/serve you. Don’t sit idly and listen to that negative mental chatter – choose to think the opposite – how great you are going to do. Choose to see your butterflies as signs of excitement and anticipation of a positive experience/result. This is exactly what I do and how I advise my clients to do. See everyone as wanting you to do great. Don’t you think the MSBL Commissioner, Chevrolet, and the MVP himself wanted Rick to nail it? Of course!
So the next time you are in a position to grow, to risk, by taking on something of a bigger magnitude than you have ever experienced, remember to “Change The Channel” when your self-doubts begin to flare. You have the power to think whatever you want, so choose the thoughts that stoke your confidence, that calm your nerves, and that allow you to be as big or bigger than the moment and to enjoy the experience. If you find this difficult to do, let’s talk.
Tom Pearson – Personal Success Coach
Do you remember my Inspiring Thought from yesterday? It was a football related quote from Vince Lombardi – “The man who wins, is the man who thinks he can.”
If you watched the Giants-Royals World Series game last night, you too saw the play of the San Francisco Giants epitomized this quote, and my thoughts that went with the quote. Before going on, I should admit that I am a SF Giants fan all the way, so my apologies to any KC Royals fans.
These are the 6 traits that I noticed in the S.F. Giants players during last night’s game:
- DESIRE & CONFIDENCE – or better known as the “willing and able” combination that is foundational to success.
- FAITH – each player looked like they believed in themselves, and believed in their teammates (we all have teammates – fellow employees, management, customers, suppliers, family, friends).
- INTENSE FOCUS – laser like concentration on everything within your control…their mindset and their actions.
- PATIENCE & PERSISTENCE – the players never looked panicked as they fell behind 4-1 and knowing that they had not yet been successful in the later innings against the Royals “Big 3” bull-pen pitchers.
- MOMENTUM – this word is often referred to in sports. After the Giants got their 2nd run, it quickly led to their 3rd, 4th, 5th…and on to their 11th. Their performance kept improving to the point that they built in insurmountable lead and broke the Royals confidence.
- ATTITUDE – winning breeds winning because an attitude is created that is based on real experiences of success. This one word sums up all of the others before it.
I have to confess that I was starting to panic for the Giants until my cousin Jack (a huge Giants fan) calmed me by saying “Hey, it’s only the 3rd inning, there’s a lot of time left. The Giants just have to stay in the game by chipping away at the lead, no problem.” The SF Giants have a well-deserved reputation for coming from behind and winning, and they did just that and WON (by a lot).
I love sports and it’s fun to see a team showcase the traits of success and win. There are big lessons to learn from the world of sports, like the ones that I outlined above, and those lessons are easily applied to success in all other endeavors – work, relationships, health, community, and spirituality.
I’m getting ready for Game 5 of the World Series with one thought…GO GIANTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tom Pearson – Tom@OwnMyGreatness.com
It’s football season, so timing is right for a good quote by Vince Lombardi – “The man who wins, is the man who thinks he can.”
Is this to say that the man who thinks he can’t win, won’t win? I’m not a big believer in the Always/Never absolutes, and I’ve seen people accomplish things that they did not think they could…which is always cool and inspiring to see. That said, if you had to choose which of two equally skilled/experienced people would be more likely to hit a goal…one thinks they can’t and the other thinks they can…which one would you choose…which one would you hire, whose business would you invest in, which would you choose as a business partner? I’m choosing the ‘believer’ every time.
Confidence and faith is a fundamental characteristic for success. We are willing to do more and we will do it better if we are operating from a confident mindset, rather than a mindset of fear, worry, or doubt. That’s why one’s mental/emotional condition will most often be the difference between success and failure. Our dominating thoughts will gradually transform themselves into physical reality…so we must be very aware of our internal dialogue. Using both our Imagination and our Will Power, we must persistently hold in our mind the outcome that we desire against all distracting thoughts/opinions.
As Napoleon Hill wrote, “What you can conceive and believe, you can achieve.” To build your confidence, every day you should read and repeat positive affirmations and visualize your success. Using the power of suggestion will create a better mindset…and when your mindset improves, so too will your results.
If you could use some tips on how to develop a more empowering, positive mindset, we at Own My Greatness are happy to help you.
Getting what we want in our lives requires a minimum of these things:
- Faith In Oneself
- Burning/Passionate Desire
- Persistent/Continuous Action.
These are the basics and, yes, there are other factors and personality attributes that influence our results. To get the Universal Laws of Cause and Effect, Vibration/Attraction, and others working with us…we need to use our Imagination to build and hold in the screen of our mind the image of what we want and who we want to become. We use our Will Power to focus on and hold this this image in our mind every day, and through Repetition, we convince our mind that this is our new reality…we create a new, empowering, positive Paradigm (belief system).
“You can attract only that which you mentally become and feel yourself to be in reality.”
~ Ernest Holmes ~
“Take bold, consistent action in the face of uncertainty.”
~ Jonathan Fields ~
Feeling good about you today? Are you your biggest fan or biggest heckler?
You were born incredible talent and capability and you’ve spent your life building on that…improving, adding on, becoming better. You’ve overcome so many obstacles, demonstrated perseverance, intelligence, will power, imagination, passion and so much more.
So what reason do you have to doubt yourself?
Do not fall into the trap of comparing yourself to anyone else…it’s a losing proposition, especially if you are harshly self-critical. There’s only one YOU – just make the most of YOU and everything will take care of itself. Let them be them, and let you be YOU!
You are uniquely gifted and capable – you just need to Believe in yourself. This I can show you how to do, so give me a call.
Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.”
~ Timothy Ferriss ~
Will you at your best today? Yes, if you have Confidence-Faith in yourself, and if you are comfortable in our own skin, and if you lead with your passion and love. Your talents, your feelings, and your style are unique to you. Abstain from playing the ‘comparison game’ with someone you admire, there’s no point to it. If you need competition, then compete with yourself…compete against your thoughts and feelings that want to hold you back from taking productive actions that move you towards positive outcomes…and challenge yourself to bring out your best. I guarantee that your best is plenty good, even great, and it’s uniquely you.
Enjoy the inspiring quotes below.
“Confidence is a choice, not a symptom. You succeed because you’ve chosen to be confident.“
~ Seth Godin ~
“When I experience and accept myself exactly as I am, then I change.“
~ Cherie McCoy ~
I recommend you read this blog post by Darren Hardy who says that to win in the game of life you will need to “be the ball” and learn The Bounce. What is The Bounce? To fall rapidly, hit bottom suddenly with impact and rebound decisively. He makes an important distinction between falling and failing, the difference being how you respond to disappointments. Read about the four distinct phases of The Bounce – The Fall, The Impact, The Restoration, and The Elevation. http://darrenhardy.success.com/2011/08/mastering-the-bounce/
The 2 primary mental building blocks for success are CONFIDENCE and DESIRE. When you have these, and then you add PERSISTENT ACTION…look out world, because you have mentally conditioned yourself to OVERCOME over every obstacle and to ACHIEVE every goal. Below are two excellent ‘thoughts’ related to CONFIDENCE.
“To be a top performer you have to be passionately committed to what you’re doing and insanely confident about your ability to pull it off.”
~ John Eliot ~
“Confidence is a choice, not a symptom. You succeed because you’ve chosen to be confident.”
~ Seth Godin ~